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“Psst…I don’t orgasm during sex”

As a sex therapist, I meet many women who are generally dissatisfied with their sex lives. One of the most common complaints that I hear from women is that they don’t have orgasms during sex with their partners. In fact, it is not only in my practice that I hear about these concerns—Women that I meet socially will frequently pull me aside and very quietly confide: “I don’t have orgasms during intercourse”. Sadly, these women usually feel very alone in their experience. They worry that there must be something wrong with them. But the truth is, most often there is absolutely nothing wrong with them. The vast majority of women, upwards of 75% do not reliably orgasm through intercourse.

Why don’t most women orgasm during intercourse? The main reason seems to have to do with basic anatomy. Most women need direct stimulation on and around the clitoris in order to reach orgasm. However, the vast majority of women do NOT get adequate clitoral stimulation through intercourse alone to bring them to orgasm. There is research dating back to the 1920’s that explores the possible relationship between a woman’s ability to orgasm with intercourse, and the location of her clitoris relative to her vagina. The results of that research indicate that if a woman’s vagina is less than 2.5 cm (roughly the length from the tip of the thumb to its first knuckle) away from her clitoris, she can potentially get enough stimulation on the clitoris just from the in and out movement of a penis in the vagina to trigger an orgasm. Therefore, this so-called “rule of thumb” suggests that if your clitoral-vaginal distance (or CV distance) is less than 2.5 cm, you may be one of the lucky ones who can orgasm through intercourse. But as luck would have it, this ideal CV distance seems to be a relatively rare phenomenon. For most women, the clitoris is further away from the vagina and doesn’t get nearly enough stimulation through penetrative sex alone to trigger an orgasm.

Sound unfair? Absolutely! That’s why I created the bee2gether vibe! As a healthcare and helping professional, it just didn’t sit right with me that the majority of otherwise normal and healthy women don’t reach orgasm during penetrative sex with their partners. So, I donned all of my professional hats (occupational therapist, psychotherapist, sex therapist, and marriage and family therapist) to develop a solution to this problem and level the sexual “playing field”. Essentially, I wanted to help women to truly “be together” with their partners in their enjoyment of sex—that’s why I created the bee2gether vibe. The bee2gether vibe is a unique and innovative couples’ sex toy that is revolutionizing the way women experience sex with their partners. The bee2gether vibe has a silicone penis ring attached to a vibrating extension that is ergonomically designed to pleasure the genitals of both partners during intercourse. Its unique patent-pending “Pleasure Zone Design” ensures that the woman receives targeted and customized clitoral stimulation, allowing her to experience her highest states of arousal and orgasm during intercourse. And the bee2gether vibe has a wireless hand-held remote that gives the user full control over the speed and mode of the vibration, for a truly personalized sexual experience. Men also love the feeling of the bee2gether vibe, and many report experiencing firmer, longer-lasting erections and more powerful orgasms.

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